If you had to come up with a recipe to describe yourself, what would it be?—and if you’re being honest, do you actually like the combination of flavors that work together to make you, you?
Lately I feel like I’ve been living in a community of multiple personalities; one day there’s sunshine, rainbows and Care Bears frolicking around the department, the next day I want to slap a bitch because some psycho has taken over my friend’s personality.
If you’re a RAB, own it.
If you’re a Dyva, own it.
If you’re a freaker-outer, own it.
If you love fouttes, own it.
If you have a thing for Susan Foster and SYTYD, own it.
If you make a mistake, own it.
If you accomplish something fabulous, own that too.
My biggest pet-peeve is inconsistent-personalities, especially when bitches are fake. If you’re going to be a RAB, just do it and stop pretending that you’re a sweet-baby-ray angel (…I don’t actually know what that is…?). Most importantly, acknowledge that everyone else around you has a life of their own, and then own the fact that you’ve chosen a career where it’s not uncommon to have 269 things piled high on your plate.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, dancers don’t have the option to mindlessly stumble along a paved road to success; you’ve got to be a go-getter that has no problem putting him or herself out there to be noticed (even when you’re overwhelmed and are longing for a day of Tyra). It’s on you to figure out how to use your glitter in the most efficient way possible to further your chances of success. Nobody is going to do it for you, not even Dumbledore (she’s got her own glitter to worry about).
I was thinking about this post when it occurred to me, before you can ever become any sort of Dyva, you’ve really got to know who you are. The confidence to throw your glitter with strength, precision and a dyva-snap comes from the knowledge of self. If you know yourself in and out, and honestly believe that who you are is special, then you won’t have to worry about bitch-slapping to get ahead.
Whatever you do, don’t let anybody make you feel like who you are isn’t good enough. Everybody has an agenda to get through and a deadline to meet, but NOBODY has time to deal with an insecure-chameleon who doesn’t quite know how to live in their own skin.
Part of growing up and becoming a respected artist in the dance community is knowing when to stand your ground, and knowing when to say no. I’m not sure if this is one of those situations where it’s like, which came first, the chicken or the egg…but you definitely can’t do one without the other.
Moral of all of this drama…know who you are, know what flavors you’ve got going on, and then own all of it. The dance community is simply a large melting pot of egos, and similar to the ecosystem of life that we all know and love, each one of us plays a crucial role in the success and maintenance of this system. So whoever you happen to be in our own dance-version of the Hunger Games, own it dangit…or watch yourself get eaten by a bunch of hairy-monsters…your choice…
Only when you can identify what your strengths are, and then acknowledge them out loud (and stop making excuses for them), do they become embodied strengths that will get you to the end of the ‘Games. So now’s the time to figure it out.
Recipe for Niche (me)
¾ cups Sassy-pants
4 Tbs. Freaker-outer
2 cups Dyva
1 tsp. RAB
1 cup Glitter